Looking for love? If you do not already have it you most certainly are, and since you’re reading this that means you are most likely looking online for love. Well you read through the instructions to set up your computer so now read the instructions on getting what you are really looking for. When browsing through adult personals, you must look deeper. Is the personal ad well written? You are not looking for a Dickens essay, but you do want the personal you read to say something about the person. Sometimes you have to read between the lines.

“I will fill this out later” tells me that they are either :

• Very busy person who does not have time to write a personal or read your letters later.
• A ego stroking person who may or may not complete their profile one day but are depending on their looks to get attention.
• Isn’t really serious about finding someone or worse yet, is attached!

The picture may scream yes, the response might not be up to snuff later. So the Adult personal should offer you insight to the person behind the profile.

Speaking of pictures, are you more a Brad Pitt or George Costanza? Hitting for the fences are admirable, but having a realistic view on a good match for you is more attractive and less stressful. This is not lowered expectations. This is reading a personal, looking in the mirror, and knowing you want love and not a fling.

So if your idea of a perfect day is a ballgame and beer, the jet setting lawyer in the mini skirt who speaks of the French Riviera weekend getaways might have to go on the maybe list, not the must meet list. Her online profile said it all.

Remember that the profile tells you everything you need to know. Once you read it…

Now comes the tough part. Not giving up! The people on the other side of the personals ad are looking just like you. They want to be swept off their feet, they want to read your personal and wonder where you have been all their lives also.

Your photo:

Pick the best picture, that LOOKS LIKE YOU. We all have that photo, the lighting was right or the caught you at an impossible angle where a model scout would say “wow, great shot”. Does it look like the person who will be splitting an appetizer in the next few weeks if they respond? Is the picture 10 years old and hides the salt in the pepper? Honesty carries longer than that little rush.

The profile text must be you:

This is YOUR personal advertisement, and no one is happy when they buy the detergent that does not take out tough stains like the ad said. Be honest in your personal advertising. Not rich? Do not act it. Not tall? Do not say you are. Like Hamburgers? Do not say you’re a vegetarian.

Sounds simple but too many people try to be what they are not, because they assume other must want what they lack. The profile text is an extension of you, it is the best foot forward and it is an glimpse into who you are.

Be loud and be proud! Celebrate who you are!

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