We are all quirky in our own right and we all have our ‘little weird things’ about us that first daters can do without discovering on that first date. Realizing those quirks are what you will be later loved or hated for, let thing happen naturally before you bring them forward. Today lets discuss the ladies things to maybe refrain from making a major date killer before you are even known. Before you get your hackles up I would never suggest not being yourself, just suggesting you do not need to wave a big banner, first dates are best foot forward time. So use this as a self examination moment before a first date. for kicks lets tie it to fun memories.

Princess and the pea girl: You ordered it, eat it. you should know what you like to drink, stay in that realm too. Exploring is fun, cursing out the server and manager is a bit far. If he drives a car that maybe is not the best, try your best to not make fun of it if you happen to have a BMW. Seats are not on the floor? well those do tend to go first and get real expensive real fast. We all like being the princess/prince and treated like royalty, but also realize along the way, this is the first date, not your 10 year anniversary, he over does it you will probably think he is trying too hard anyway so appreciate the date for the company. If you feel a slight bump from the pea princess sleep on the other side of the 100 mattresses.

Goonies Chunck confessing to bank robbers: “And when I was six I pushed my sister down the stairs and blamed the dog”. This is now called TMI. You do not need to share your wholelife story tonight. You do not need to confess all your sins in the next 30 seconds, if it works out, then so long as you do in the next 6 months you should be OK. Try this; have fun, it is a date.

Sex in the city character: Allow me to offer you a little insight, Men think the girls in that movie are serial daters or tramps. You may love shoes and champagne, you might have dated a ‘Mr. Big’, you may even look like one of them and have drinks daily with 3 girlfriends, your still not on TV. you would be upset if your date acted like Dan Fielding, it is all designed for humor, not for reality. Dating Never works long term until the masks come off, pretending to be Sarah Jessica Parker is not going to win you the long term relationship you deserve, because men will never know you.

Stepford mom: His house is less than tidy? GOOD!!!! What you are not seeing is if you are at his place and it is messy, he never intended to bring you there, he was not planing on trying to sleep with you, he might even respect you. Buyer beware the man with a super clean home if he lives alone. Men are generally messier than woman, generalization but true, and if his house is spotless he is either OCD, or you might want to wonder how many woman have been there on first dates ahead of you. Let him be a little messy, think of it as showing you some respect.

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