Do not go out on a first date and pop 3 Viagra on the way out the door. Sound funny? OK, with a show of hands, how many of you have a friend or friends who tell you the ‘rules’ of dating?

Ok now put your hands down, how many of you out there have followed friends advice down the path to destruction?

Dating has do’s and do not’s. Do, be polite and be yourself and confident in your ability to do this. Do not go out on a first date and pop 3 Viagra on the way out the door. Sound funny? I know a guy who did because he was given ‘advice’, and was so nervous he took it.

Do: Have a plan, have a map for the evening, have something in your mind that is either an ice breaker, or a silence stopper. She is nervous too, remember that, your both on a first date. Find a place that has things to do but is still not so loud you can not talk.

Most people forget a date is set because you actually want to communicate with this person. I prefer something active, sounds hokey, but I love to play miniature golf, only on dates. Turn off the over competitive side and just relax and enjoy, if your good at least let her feel competitive too.

Do not: Go to a movie, not for the first date. If you really are both movie buff’s rent one. Make sure you have the option and ability for conversation. Relax the hormones, the sex happens when it happens, getting her very drunk with that in mind is almost always obvious. I do not care what your friend said about her, just remember the 3 Viagra guy.

Mostly, do not lie, if this is ever going to become something more than casual, the lies will bite you later on, better to be up front than hopeful it never comes up again. Do not listen to your friends and this “3 day rule”, if you like her, do not be afraid to ask for a second date, maybe even ask if she would like to plan it.

Again, remember above all, being you is not such a horrible thing, but not being you is.

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