Consider that anyone can write anything about whom they are and it generally takes a few dates or a few months to discover the truth. We’re not referring to chemistry here. We’re talking about hobbies, interests, books read, income, etc. The variables that help you decide whether to contact or move to the next profile.

They say first impressions are everything, and everyone wants to put their best foot forward. Albeit a lot of people these days online have several feet they like to put forward and depending on the recipient, it depends on what they will project.

So does a scientific formula really discourage…let’s call them embellishments? Does an extensive profile with all your interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes really tell you what you need to know? Does a quiz truly project who you are on the inside?

I think not. People have bad days and good days, and depending on their state of mind on any particular day is depending on what you will see on their profile.

In recent months, much of the main stream media has bashed online dating website gimmicks for the lack of results, security, and accountability. Are online personals doing enough to help you find your true love? One school of thought is that if you have countless parameters and you can disregard those you don’t feel would be a good fit that you would be much closer to finding “the one”. The other is that if you answer several questions, there’s a pattern to successful relationships and a match can be made based on a formula.

I say hogwash! Love and connections happen when you least expect them and they come in all sorts of shapes and sizes from all distances. Don’t limit yourself to contrived parameters and open yourself up to the possibilities and you will find your perfect partner when you least expected them and probably nowhere near the parameters you’ve sited.

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