The practice of astrology has been around for centuries and some of the revelations are downright frightening!
Even if you don’t believe, to categorize people into types, as does Myers Briggs (16 types within four pairs of dichotomies), you have to wonder if at some point in our illustrious and often clouded history, if someone didn’t come up with a similar system for determining personalities, and simply called it - horoscopes.

It is said that horoscopes and astronomy (the Greek word for “Science of the Stars”) originated from ancient Greece some 3000+ years ago and were later re-popularized by ancient Egyptians. There are enough astrological iterations and interpretations to make your head spin! Let’s get right into it and skip the history lesson though. Now for the fun part!

There are 12 horoscopes in the astrological calendar and everyone on the planet falls into one of those descriptions. We also happen to be born within the specified dates that each astrological sign represents – SPOOKY!

Following are the basic horoscope descriptions for each astrological sign that could give you some insight into your date!

If anything, it makes for some interesting conversation.

Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorns are socially conscious people that give importance to order and finding one’s place within the social network. They are excessive perfectionists and have a strong work ethic and are excellent organizers. They tend to be egomaniacs and lean toward the materialistic side. They do not like being pressured, like to keep things simple, yet are elitists.

In love, they are completely loyal and offer unconditional love. They have an amazing sense of humor which tends to be a little on the dry side.

Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
The water Bearer walks his own path. An original thinker that enjoys being different from other, Aquarians tend to be positive, liberal, and high energy. Boredom is a killer for Aquarians and so they like to keep active with constant stimulation. Many Aquarians seem to live in their own world with their own rules. They like arguments and debates as a form of mental stimulation and very much enjoy a good verbal joust. They are very creative and imaginative and act like they are experts in many fields even though they might not know that much about the subject.

In love, they tend to focus all their attention on one person and seem to be on an elevated plane when in love. They are very friendly and sincere and they enter into relationships giving the best of themselves to their partner. However, they love their freedom so to keep and Aquarius, you have to be prepared to let them have a life outside the relationship.

Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
A kind, caring, and sensitive sign, Pisceans tend to be selfless and unworldly. They are imaginative people who can often be escapists and idealistic. They can also be weak-willed and easily lead which could lead to alcohol and drug abuse because of the inability to cope with the realities of the everyday world.

As partners, they are devoted and loyal and are faithful to their families and loved ones. They love being popular and enjoy a wide variety of friends.

Aries (March 21 - April 19)
A distinct leader, the adventure-loving Aries can be hot tempered. Aries are known to have a life of good health and amazing energy but tend to burn-out when trying to accomplish too much within small amounts of time. They are adventurers and can be impatient for action.

They are usually loyal and steadfast when domesticated and love home-life and family. Aries are fiercely loyal and their hot temper can be misconstrued in love.

Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
The methodical Taurus is more practical and observant than any other sign. They do not exude pizzazz but have the ability to plan a successful life in business and at home. Even though they are cool and even tempered, the Taurus becomes extremely potent when provoked or under imminent threat.

They are traditional lovers and tend to stick with the tried and true. They love creature comforts and are good steady providers for their family.

Gemini (May 21 - June 21)
The “twins” are conversationalists. If you ever date one, you’ll notice they are in constant contact by phone, IM, email, and of course in person. They have a thirst for knowledge and gain information by asking a lot of questions and reading and learning from a variety of sources.

Gemini’s don’t tend to live in the motional realm even though they love to discuss emotional matters. They seem very romantic but have a habit of taking themselves out of love very quickly. They have an “evil twin” and can be moody and discouraged but are also lively and energetic and have a witty sense of humor. The idea of love seems to be more appealing than the reality of it. They love change and variety and are have great people skills. However, the Gemini lacks focus and spreads their energy thin leaving things unfinished.

Cancer (June 22 - July 22)
Those born under this sign can often be found to be shy and withdrawn to boisterous and outgoing. They are generally the sign of family life. They can be thin skinned and sensitive which is why home life is so important to them where they can go to get away from the world and snuggle into their comfort zone.

In love they are very romantic and nurturing and can be sympathetic and caring for the less fortunate.

Leo (July 23 - August 22)
Leo’s are natural born leaders who tend to take center stage whether be a class clown of arbiter. They are charismatic and have a fiery personality and are magnanimous, broad-minded, and expansive. They can be pompous at times as well and have been known to be bullying, snobbish, and bossy. Not caring much for doing anything safely, Leos have a flair for showmanship and drama.

In love they tend to be warm-hearted and loving but are also inclined to have a fascination with love affairs, both legal and illicit. They also like children.

Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
The often critical yet hard-working Virgo has sensibility and no-nonsense attitude that usually makes them become successful. Although they tens to be hesitant to take matters into their own hands and require supervision.

In love they tend to be a little overbearing, constantly trying to improve upon the other person’s ways of doing things. They constantly try to go father in relationships often leading to self-disparaging behavior.

Libra (September 23 - October 22)
This charming sign is at ends with everything as they often find beauty in it all. They sit on opposite ends of the fence yet on the same side. They are extremely diplomatic and will generally tell you what you want to hear as to make you like them. They are said the be the most beautiful and artistic of the signs. They are often accused of being lazy and indecisive. They also tend to avoid unsavory situations postponing decisions as long as possible. They tend to make great mediators are they weigh in all the pros and cons.

In love they lean toward being equally givers and takers and often become attacted to the opposite sex quite easily. They are a sociable person generally having a large group of friends playing good host. It is important to Libra’s that the people around them are comfortable and happy.

Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
Motivated, penetrating, and aware are the Scorpions. Their emotions tend to run deep even if they hide them. They tend to be passionate which leads them into commanding positions of service. Scorpios dislike secrecy which makes it almost impossible to hide things from them.

They are very sexually driven and can be devoted and caring lovers. A born traveler, they love exploring new and interesting places. This sign is not to be taken lightly. When they want to find out about something or someone, they are unstoppable. Their determination makes them quickly bounce back from setbacks and they pretty much see the world in black and white with not much interpretation left for the middle.

Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
With a love for philosophy and religion, these truth-seekers are deeply committed to the discovery and meaning of life. They are clear thinkers and have an uncanny ability seeing the big picture. Set in their convictions, they become argumentative when their views are challenged as they invest a lot of thought into their beliefs. They can have sharp tongues and become impulsively ornery. Sometimes they seem selfish and hypocritical especially when it comes to recognition.

Sagittarians enjoy exploring new areas of thought and their outlook on life stays positive even through adversity. They are honest, trustworthy, and faithful and usually root for the underdog. In love, they are very direct and completely faithful as they are usually in control of their sexual urges. However, they may become promiscuous of they feel they have been deceived by members of the opposite sex.

Here we will explore the top 10 questions that could help you get a better understanding of who you’re talking to on the other side of that phone.

In this edition, we start with color and color psychology. It’s unavoidable! Color is everywhere and there are basic colors that come with certain characteristics. Scientific studies have linked color to emotion, persona, and even thought processes. Researchers have found the following descriptions to be eerily accurate.

Color psychology and the color guide to dating

Q: What’s your favorite color?

Black

Black is the color of power, authority, and “darkness”. It is extremely popular in fashion because it’s serves as an optical illusion making people seem thinner. Throughout the centuries the church and religious leaders have used black and a symbol for submission to GOD by wearing it. There are even studies that suggest that in some cultures, women wear black to imply submission to men. Black also makes people feel villainous and evil. Some of the scariest characters throughout time have been dresses in black and get around with black transportation. Even Batman seems dark and evil because of his choice of color. Is your date just making a fashion statement or do they truly have a dark side?

Common connotations of black: Modernity, power, sophistication, formality, elegance, wealth, mystery, style, evil, death, fear, anonymity, anger, sadness, remorse, mourning, unhappiness, mysterious, sex, seriousness, rebellion, unity, sorrow.

White

The ultimate symbol of purity and innocence. From gurus through brides, white radiates everything that is good. It also symbolizes winter and cold, after all, the coldest places on the planet are covered in white snow. People that surround themselves with white generally have a lighter demeanor and seem more friendly and happy. This date would definitely be enlightening or will just bore you to tears.

Common connotations of white: Humility, respect, reverence, stability, subtlety, wisdom, anachronism, boredom, balance, neutrality, reverence, purity, peace, innocence, cleanliness, simplicity, security, sterility, winter, coldness, surrender, cowardice, fearfulness, hope.

Red

So full of emotion and intensity, red is known to have physical effects on humans. It is known to increase your pulse and breathing. It is also said to make people hungry! It is sensual, represents love, lust, and worldly desires. Red is used to represent power and authority. Often used to attract attention, women wear red (lipstick, dresses, shoes) to project a sensual confidence. Men wear red ties to project power and stability. A red date would be interesting to say the least!

Common connotations of red: Passion, strength, energy, fire, love, sex, excitement, speed, heat, arrogance, ambition, leadership, masculinity, power, danger, gaudiness, blood, war, anger, revolution, radicalism, socialism, communism, aggression, respect.

Pink

The most feminine color in the color wheel, pink also happens to be tranquilizing. It supposedly drains energy from masculine subjects. Women who are attracted to pink are generally more feminine and of higher maintenance while men use pink as a symbol of their masculinity or at the complete opposite end, femininity. Can you say fun?

Common connotations of pink: Femininity, gratitude, appreciation, admiration, sympathy, love, marriage, homosexuality, bisexuality.

Blue

Blue is one of the most popular colors in the world. It reminds us of the sky, the ocean, and a general feeling of wellness and tranquility. It can also be cold and calculating so blue is a little tricky to dissect. Generally speaking, blue is loyal and peaceful and exhudes stability and productivity. A good solid date that will have you thinking of marriage and children.

Common connotations of blue: Peace, unity, harmony, tranquility, calmness, coolness, confidence, conservatism, loyalty, dependability, cleanliness, technology, depression, coldness, idealism, wisdom, royalty, nobility, Earth (planet), strength, steadfastness, truthfulness.

Green

Clearly the color of choice when representing nature and anything natural, green also signifies envy, greed, and money. People attracted to green are often attracted to wealth, power, and have a hunger to succeed. On the opposite end of that spectrum, green exudes social responsibility, social cause, and nature. You can clearly see the distinction between the two types of personalities attracted to green. Some people just like living large, are you ready for an adventure?

Common connotations of green: Nature, spring, fertility, environment, wealth, money, vigor, generosity, envy, greed, life eternal, air, sincerity, hope, natural abundance, growth, health, balance, harmony, good luck.

Yellow

Cheerful is the yellow submarine and the yellow bus, this happy hippie color adds cheer to anything it touches. It also enhances concentration and speeds metabolism. Yellow has a dark side though and if not used sparingly, it is overpowering and explosive. The distinction between the two types of people attracted to yellow is clearly divided. Kumbaya! Happy, happy, joy, joy!

Common connotations of yellow: Sunlight, joy, happiness, optimism, intelligence, idealism, summer, hope, air, liberalism, cowardice, sociability, summer, friendship, evil, explosive, overpowering.

Purple

The choice color for many royalty, purple has been extensively used by such people as Cleopatra, Queen Elizabeth, and Liberace! It exudes luxury, wealth, and sophistication and is thought to be feminine and romantic. Purple is also used in some cultures in the “dark arts” and has an eerie omni-presence making it appear artificial and superficial. People who surround themselves with purple tend to have deep convictions and may appear shallow. On the flip side, they may be poised and regal in nature. Can you handle a little mystery?

Common connotations of purple: Spirituality, creativity, royalty, nobility, magical, ceremony, mystery, wisdom, enlightenment, arrogance, flamboyance, gaudiness, profanity, exaggeration, confusion, homosexuality, pride, regal.

Brown

Another color of the earth, brown tends to be the stable cousin of green. A reliable and stern naturist, brown is elegant, earthly, and warm. It’s abundance is radiated from within and it exudes sophistication, wisdom, and knowledge. Brown also represents filth, uncleanliness, and a general air of being dirty. The distinctions between the two personalities that are attracted to brown are obvious and clearly defined. Makes for a sweet “organic” experience

Common connotations of brown: Calm, depth, nature, richness, rustic, stability, tradition, anachronism, filth, dirty, heaviness, poverty, wholesomeness, steadfastness, simplicity, friendliness, dependability.

There are three primary types of flirting.

The first and most misused flirting technique is the sexual flirt. We do not recommend this technique unless you are absolutely confident that your date is open to it and you are confident enough to pull it off! There are several ways this flirt can be executed. The carnal rule of this type of flirting is you absolutely must be 100% confident! If you lack in the confidence department, you will just look creepy! And this goes for both men and women. Sexual flirts are best done with innuendo rather than literals. Remember that your date doesn’t want to feel uncomfortable on a date or feel as if you’re there just to “get some”. They want to have some laughs and a nice time which leads us into the next and probably the best flirt, the comedic flirt.

Comedy flirts are a little tricky. There’s a fine line between funny and, well, not funny. We strongly suggest you stay way clear of any touchy subjects like politics. Everyone has different sensibilities and turning someone’s passion into a joke is dangerous territory. Instead, try to add some comedic relief to present situations. Your bartender may be wearing something funny of someone at the next table may have said something that can be easily converted into a joke. The comedy flirt is meant to relieve you and your date of any dating jitters and add a few smiles and laughs to the experience. If properly executed, this is a highly effective flirt. However, if executed perfectly, you may come off as a “friend” and that’s just bad news!

Generally the Comedy Flirt and the Banter Flirt go hand in hand but unless you’re a master flirter, we don’t recommend you combine these two.

We love the banter flirt and find it the most effective. Banter flirts are risky but if properly executed, they’re highly effective to get your date comfortable and eating out of the palm of your hand. Banter flirts involve light teasing of your date but not to the point where it may seem you’re picking at them. Banter flirting can easily be construed as nitpicking and is oftentimes taken offensively so make sure you keep it very light and minimal. Teasing your date about their choice in clothing the entire night isn’t very flattering. Try to stay away from personal tangible things like clothing, hair, their car, etc. and stick to non-tangibles like accents, smiles, and even walks can be molded into cute moments of light banter.

Flirting is a great way to break the ice and let your date know that you’re interested. Over-flirting is over selling and that’s a big no-no. If you over-flirt, you will come off as desperate, overbearing, and even offensive. The best way to flirt is to keep back off once you’ve executed a flirt. This will keep you date guessing and gives them a chance to respond. It also gives you a chance to see if they are receptive to your advances and what better way to see if your date is interested by receiving a flirt in return.

Princess and the pea girl: You ordered it, eat it. you should know what you like to drink, stay in that realm too. Exploring is fun, cursing out the server and manager is a bit far. If he drives a car that maybe is not the best, try your best to not make fun of it if you happen to have a BMW. Seats are not on the floor? well those do tend to go first and get real expensive real fast. We all like being the princess/prince and treated like royalty, but also realize along the way, this is the first date, not your 10 year anniversary, he over does it you will probably think he is trying too hard anyway so appreciate the date for the company. If you feel a slight bump from the pea princess sleep on the other side of the 100 mattresses.

Goonies Chunck confessing to bank robbers: “And when I was six I pushed my sister down the stairs and blamed the dog”. This is now called TMI. You do not need to share your wholelife story tonight. You do not need to confess all your sins in the next 30 seconds, if it works out, then so long as you do in the next 6 months you should be OK. Try this; have fun, it is a date.

Sex in the city character: Allow me to offer you a little insight, Men think the girls in that movie are serial daters or tramps. You may love shoes and champagne, you might have dated a ‘Mr. Big’, you may even look like one of them and have drinks daily with 3 girlfriends, your still not on TV. you would be upset if your date acted like Dan Fielding, it is all designed for humor, not for reality. Dating Never works long term until the masks come off, pretending to be Sarah Jessica Parker is not going to win you the long term relationship you deserve, because men will never know you.

Stepford mom: His house is less than tidy? GOOD!!!! What you are not seeing is if you are at his place and it is messy, he never intended to bring you there, he was not planing on trying to sleep with you, he might even respect you. Buyer beware the man with a super clean home if he lives alone. Men are generally messier than woman, generalization but true, and if his house is spotless he is either OCD, or you might want to wonder how many woman have been there on first dates ahead of you. Let him be a little messy, think of it as showing you some respect.

Follow these simple first-date etiquette tips and you’ll greatly improve your chances for a second date.

Be on time. There’s no greater sign of disrespect than being late for your first date. Get a map online and bring it, arrive early, and show your date that you are interested in him or her and the plans you made.

Make a backup plan. The weather can change quickly, Have a backup plan ready in case your date takes an unexpected turn.

Plan a short date. No need to map out the rest of your lives together. Start with a simple, 1/2 hour date. If things go well, you can always extend the date. There’s nothing worse than realizing five minutes into the date that the other person is moments from hoping for your demise.

Ask what the other person is going to wear. When planning the date, talk about the dress code for the particular event, If they are unfamilar with the destination tell them a little about it. Never ever do a suprise the other person first date. It can be embarrassing if one person shows up in a suit while the other wears jeans and a sweatshirt.

Compliment, but don’t overdo it. A few nice words make everyone feel special, but persistent comments about the other person’s looks, personality, body, etc., gets old and can seem insincere or desperate. Everyone wants to feel important, noone wants to be overwhelmed.

Drink like an adult. Unless your the couple from barfly, no one wants to hold a first dates hair as she is sick, so don’t pretend you’re at a frat party. Drinking too much will likely bring out the things you prefer to keep to another day. Nevermind that nothing says no repeat quite like a bouncer putting you in a cab.

In a new age with more options than ever before on finding the perfect relationship, more and more people are looking for that initial contact through online dating.

Though people have the ability to narrow the focus there their perspective cities, a lot of online daters seem to find the relationship of their dreams outside their zip code.

I frequent the pick up places here but I never seem to meet people who I go out with more than once or twice, and even then it seems like we go back to where I met them. With online dating, my relationship pool expands beyond my normal driving hemisphere. With online dating, I know a lot more about the person immediately before saying a word. Than and having an out of town relationship frees me up more to work during the week, and it’s like a vacation every other weekend. I love it!! - online dater requesting anonymity.

But can the relationship move beyond the online Dating experience? The people interviewed say yes!

If the relationship really got to that point, we would just figure out how to either get closer or even move in together. For now, we even do online dates, watch a movie and chat at the same time… We communicate better dating online. - Hillary McGinnis

Does, in this fast moving world, we would have to conclude that yes, online dating is working well for those who use it.

“I will fill this out later” tells me that they are either :

• Very busy person who does not have time to write a personal or read your letters later.
• A ego stroking person who may or may not complete their profile one day but are depending on their looks to get attention.
• Isn’t really serious about finding someone or worse yet, is attached!

The picture may scream yes, the response might not be up to snuff later. So the Adult personal should offer you insight to the person behind the profile.

Speaking of pictures, are you more a Brad Pitt or George Costanza? Hitting for the fences are admirable, but having a realistic view on a good match for you is more attractive and less stressful. This is not lowered expectations. This is reading a personal, looking in the mirror, and knowing you want love and not a fling.

So if your idea of a perfect day is a ballgame and beer, the jet setting lawyer in the mini skirt who speaks of the French Riviera weekend getaways might have to go on the maybe list, not the must meet list. Her online profile said it all.

Remember that the profile tells you everything you need to know. Once you read it…

Now comes the tough part. Not giving up! The people on the other side of the personals ad are looking just like you. They want to be swept off their feet, they want to read your personal and wonder where you have been all their lives also.

Your photo:

Pick the best picture, that LOOKS LIKE YOU. We all have that photo, the lighting was right or the caught you at an impossible angle where a model scout would say “wow, great shot”. Does it look like the person who will be splitting an appetizer in the next few weeks if they respond? Is the picture 10 years old and hides the salt in the pepper? Honesty carries longer than that little rush.

The profile text must be you:

This is YOUR personal advertisement, and no one is happy when they buy the detergent that does not take out tough stains like the ad said. Be honest in your personal advertising. Not rich? Do not act it. Not tall? Do not say you are. Like Hamburgers? Do not say you’re a vegetarian.

Sounds simple but too many people try to be what they are not, because they assume other must want what they lack. The profile text is an extension of you, it is the best foot forward and it is an glimpse into who you are.

Be loud and be proud! Celebrate who you are!

For example

You say: I am not ready for a serious relationship.

They Hear: With you.

Express this to a deeper level if this is not what you mean.  People you are in a relationship with are in a heightened level of emotion, and possibly a bit paranoid from this.  Give the sentence more, try: I am not ready for a serious relationship quite yet, I do not want to stop seeing you, just give me a little more time before we make the next step.  Give them something else to finish the sentence with besides the natural doom thought. 

You say: I need some alone time.

They hear: I need time away from you and this relationship.

Seeing the pattern? Most people expect to get dumped, especially while things are still progressing, give them more to work with: I need somne alone time, not alot, just some so I can breath a little and maybe process somethings.  Everyone needs this time and its ok.

Relationships are not a game of Ad-libs, if you want to succeed in it, you can not allow the person to fill in the blanks of what you mean.  Tell them and let the questions remain at ‘where would you like to have dinner’, not ‘do they care’.

Example: I dated for a year a woman who was everything, in my head, should be the shining example of well put together. She owned her own business and did very well. She was a widow with children, owned her home, loved to travel, wine, expensive dinners, early 40’s and smart as a whip.

I was low 30’s, running an entertainment complex, same interests, single and never married. On paper we should have never had a second date. My annual salary could not cover her taxes.

For whatever reason our relationship went white hot overnight (no not from sex) and we were together full time around work. Well for a time anyway. What went wrong? I was ready for a relationship, she was not. Timing. We were the same outside socio-economics, our interests ran parallel, we could sit and talk over a bottle of wine and just enjoy. She wanted a fun time, I was in my ealy 30’s wanna be married mode. Bad timing.

We were not a ‘match’ per-se, but we matched enough. Sadly she was not prepared for me. the relationship was wonderful for the time it was, and so will your be. Just make sure when you start dating that match, you are as prepared for a relationship as you can be, and then let the relationship carry you as far as it will. Enjoy the dating world!

DO meet in public.
On first meetings, ALWAYS arrange to rendezvous in a populated, public place. Never meet in a private home (or in a hotel room) or in a remote location. People you meet online is the same as a blind date on a first date, Treat is as such.

ALWAYS tell a friend.
Tell at least one friend or family member who you are meeting, where you are going and when you expect to return. Let your date know your meeting is not a secret. Call them during the date if you decide to change locations.

DO not drink in excess.
You wits and control are your best friends. Dating online is safe, this just adds to everyday safety.

Everyone has a cell, bring yours: Be reachable, it is ok to check back with friends or family during a date. Do this in the restroom if you prefer not to show you checking in.

Take your own car or mode of transportation.
There is nothing wrong with taking a cab. If you go to another location, drive yourself.

Keep your items with you, do not leave your things unattended. Don’t risk having your personal information stolen. The same goes for your drink - don’t risk having it tampered with.

Do not go to each others homes: Your home is your safety place, keep it that way until trust is built. If you feel pressured, end the meeting and leave at once.

Do not be afraid to set the next date when you feel comfortable: If the other person is sincerely interested in you, he or she will want you to feel safe and allow you a few dates to get there.