As long as I can recall in my dating history I have had 2 modes I date within. Date everyone or date someone. Like most of us I have always felt happier in the date someone mode. I enjoy he loved feeling. I enjoy the somebody there to express the highs and lows of everyday life with. I enjoy the heightened level of closeness you can only get when in a relationship of true meaning.

Now I recognize that these relationships that give us the everything is overly exaggerated feeling do not come everyday, nor that they always work. So in between those i tend to take a small 2-3 month break for me, and spend a little time in date everyone mode. With online dating I find this mode to be much easier to both locate, and exist in.  Now the question is how many of these may a person court at any given time? That is dependent on the person, but the rules remain the same.

1. If you are seeing or speaking with other people, never ever say you are not. Want to know what a player is? Someone who lies to get what they want, lies for sex. Want to know what having true game is? Tell the truth and still be wanted. Any adviser who tells you to mislead is not your friend. I am not advising flaunting your other interests, not by a long shot. But if asked, yes you are seeing other people, all lying should say is you are not in the least serious, because you just crushed any future.
2. As you lose interest in them, let them know,do not string it along and narrow the field. Anything else is both dishonest, and cheating them time to find someone who they are mutually happy with. The purpose of dating multiple people should be to find the one you connect best with, not to try and do a Hugh Hephner impression, there can be only one Heph!
3. Do not invite multiple people to the same event, hoping to pick the best return offer. If you have tickets to a concert, do not invite many on this date and chose according to who offers to buy dinner, or drive, or whatever they reply with. Invite, get an answer, if no, then feel free.
4. Good for the goose, Good for the gander. So you have multiple people you are seeing? What is the problem with them doing the same? Oh yeah, your ego. Turn that off right now. Hypocrites are both annoying and pathetic creatures, be neither. If you are not serious enough about them to be exclusive, you should not expect them to be either.

Dating is fun,  Keep in mind this, Dating only gets harder the more people out there who do not follow the rules, it leaves a trail of mistrust. A trail all of us who are in the dating world know, is a difficult one to follow.

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