When you are in your 20’s and looking for love you always seem to fall just short. Is it you, is it her, is it just bad timing (one of my old favorites). Well if your honest, it is all of the above. People are marrying older now for a reason, we are not so ready for a life commitment at a young age, but having successful relationships and dates is not out of reach. Try following this:

1. Raise your standards — having a shadow doesn’t mean she’s perfect for you. Hot does not equal forever, and money is something earned, not sought in a mate.
2. Start each relationship as friends. It is possible, i know it is hard, but possible. Long term, the friendship will mean more.
3. Take it slow. Those blazing hot relationships are fun, so are the fight/make up ones, sort of. they also drain you, add cynicism, and can make you miss out on true romance. There is nothing wrong with casually dating while you look, fist dates do not have to turn into a relationship.
4. Recognize that someone out there is right for you. As well as you are right for them. The best relationships in your life are 2 way streets, if one person carries the other neither make it very far down the path.

Comfort and chemistry can both be obtained. If she keeps you off balance all the time, she is most likely wrong. The advice I always give to the younger people working for me is this: think of the traits you look for when meeting someone while out with friends, now compare them to the traits you want in a life mate, why are you wasting so much time on the first? The latter is out there, just one date away.

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